Saturday, May 02, 2009

learning

I was up far too early this morning and spent my early hours with coffee and discovering a few new blogs. I ran across an interesting post by the Thinking Dominant entitled, “Teaching". He writes:

“Who 'teaches'? Take for example the submissive [who] is more experienced than the dominant. Can the sub teach from the bottom? Should the Dom look to other Doms? Perhaps finding a mentor or start at the bottom?”

This post echoes my own questions as a submissive. Questions that relate not only to how I can become a better girl to my Ma'am but also to how I can best use my experience and perspective to help my Ma'am to learn and further develop her identity as a dominant.

Although I have a touch more experience than my Ma'am in this world, we are both somewhat new to it. There have been many moments where we've both felt as if we were stumbling around in the dark, trying and failing to figure out how to be what we are. We've both had “a-ha” moments relevant to our respective roles but for the most part they are hard won and take far longer to realize than we'd like.

For those of us who are newer to this world, what's the best way to learn outside the scope of your own experience? How does one go about finding a mentor or connecting with those who are willing and interested in teaching others?

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